I contacted Viv shortly after my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I felt unable to shoulder the sadness and I was at a loss as to how I could support my dad whilst he was dying. I was fearful that I could not cope before, during and after his death. I was overwhelmed and found myself telling others that my dad was dying in socially inappropriate settings. As usual in any family situation, there was the dynamic of different personalities, different coping mechanisms and priorities added to the mix. It was the worst time of my life.
Viv coached me through these months by providing me with an outlet to grieve about the fact my dad was dying in a way that was positive. She helped me to put my feelings towards myself and others into context, whilst giving me the tools and the self-awareness to support my dad the best that I could in his last months and days. As a result of Viv helping me manage my grief, I have no regrets about how I acted in the last few months of my dad’s life which is a real comfort to me now. Also when the time came, I accepted my dad’s death in a way I could not have expected to when he was initially diagnosed, and I am confident that I have escaped the worst period of my life without any emotional damage, all due to Viv.
Coping with watching someone you love die is an experience like no other. The pain is suffocating – it physically hurts – and you feel too inadequate to support your loved one. However, Viv can be your counterpart to what feels like tsunamis of grief, ensuring you keep your head above water and come out the other side.