Viv provided mentoring to me before my first collaborative case on a one to one basis, which proved invaluable in guiding me through the meetings, ensuring that all the issues reverted back to the collaborative ethos and giving me strategies to enable success. Ultimately, not only did this assist in bringing the meetings to a successful settlement, but also provided me with reassurance and allowed me to calm my apprehension. The mentoring was focussed but warm and fun at the same time.
I had trained as a Collaborative lawyer in 2006 but it was not until 2008 that I received instructions on my first matter. The other Collaborative lawyer had undertaken a good number of cases and, whilst I had confessed to it being my first case, I decided that I would benefit from mentoring.
I arranged a meeting with Viv and we went through the concerns I had – some of these were procedural so it was good to talk these through with Viv but others were more personal to me – not wanting my client to know I hadn’t been through the process before; not wanting the other spouse to pick up on my lack of confidence etc all of which I had built up in my head as giant issues.
Talking it through in a mentoring session helped me relax about these issues and focus on the process. I felt able to discuss all my concerns and fears with Viv, without feeling stupid and found her easy to open up to. We sometimes forget that we all have to have our first case at some point and so the worries and concerns are quite normal to have. Through the mentoring I realised that I wasn’t alone in my worries, which in reality were completely unfounded in any event.
I would recommend the mentoring to anyone, not just those doing their first case but to those who feel they would benefit from an outside perspective on matters relevant to the collaborative process. Viv is highly approachable, very knowledgeable and very experienced, so all in all it’s a win-win situation.